Networking mixers scare the bejesus of me.
Yes – bejesus. I am not the guy that loves to talk to people. I constantly fear being escorted out the building for my thoughts. It sounds ridiculous, but its the script that plays in my head, ad nauseam. Each conversation is another chance for me to step over the line, and be seen as the “other”.
Networking is pretty hard for me. And while I am learning about how habits and systems make me stronger, I find it hard to make networking a thing. It’s always something that exists as a fringe idea, something that I happen to run into, instead of something that is next to me.
There are some associated costs. I know there are some missed opportunities, and I constantly envy someone who can walk into a room and make an impression. I used to think that this was something inbred, but the more I learn the more I realize that this is a skill, and skills are taught.
Next month I am going to make Networking the theme. Everything I do will have a networking focus, and I am open to getting any resources on the topic. Coaching, books, and opportunities will be at a premium. I have a bit of stomach churn even typing this!
I have cheated though, I already started Never Eat Alone and finished Power: Why Some People Have It—and Others Don’t. Both books have gotten me to check some of the positions I have had before. I am open to more things as well, so please feel free to add comments or fire an email with resources that you think could help me learn.
An aside – but related:
Tonight I get a chance to go to the 99U pre conference mixer, held at the Highline Ballroom in NYC. This is a grand opportunity to mix it up with some conference people. If you are there feel free to say hello, and let me know that I am not escorted out of the building 🙂
From the desk of Adam Thomas 