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Lessons of April 2018: Take a Break!

Have a break, make sure others do too

This month started with a crippling depression.  The start of the month involved me not taking more than 1,000 steps in two weeks.

Trust me, I had free time.

Here is how I spent it:

  • Instead of getting stuff done, I stayed in my apartment away from the world
  • Instead of going to the gym, I focused on the pain in my body and used it as an excuse to do nothing.
  • Instead of talking to people, I. hid, crushed with anxiety for what could happen.

And I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

The end of this month has been one of the most productive of my life. It is as if I made up for lost time not just in work, but in attitude. I was better, both in mind and spirit.

A break was what I needed.

This month was about not being dragged down, and part of that is what you can do at the moment (which is some of what I wrote about daily). Another part of that is learning that sometimes you need to shut it down*.

This lesson was the most significant one for me. One I often forget and usually (unlike this month) learn the hard way.

We aren’t robots. We don’t follow to-do lists. Our emotions and spirit come into play and affect everything we do. If I came to work in a dark place, that opens to door to vindictive, messy work that serves no one and as a destructive bonus takes other people down as well.

That is why listening to your fatigue and finding breaks is often the healthiest/most productive thing you do.

Recovery is part of strength.

You take you everywhere. Your team takes themselves anywhere. Physical fatigue isn’t the only thing we need to listen to, we have spiritual and mental fatigue, too.

Because when we drag ourselves down, we can drag other people with us, and we don’t want to do that.

*My privilege in life allows m to do this. I am a mental health advocate, and this only strengthens it. The ability to take a break shouldn’t just go to the classed. Personal days is a right; we’d all be better for it.

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Didn’t Think About Attention While I Was Looking For Time – What I Learned In April

Intentional rest is hard.

The people who make the things that grab our attention are good at what they do.  Really good. Good to the point that you, as the owner of your time, get defensive when they, the takers of your time, go away.

I am no exception to any of that.

This month I turned off notifications, moved devices to other rooms, and left home for a few days. All of them were a panacea for my “rest” problem but I still need that connection to feel connected.

This is hard.

But, through this process, I began to step away from intellectualizing attention and step into understanding it. Attention is the partner of our time, and like it’s partner it’s always fragmented. However, unlike its partner, it is up to us to master it. Time is external (something we can’t effect) and attention is internal (something we can).

I started this month thinking it was all about time and left it understanding that there are levels to this I don’t understand yet. Attention popped up as a theme when I didn’t realize it was a big part of that.

It’s funny how focusing on not working lets me realize how much work there is to do. 

Biggest Lesson – Manage your attention and pay attention to the time.

My Correct Assumptions

  • Accountability matters.
  • Experimentation got me over a few humps.
  • Limited willpower bit me a lot, I need to create some better systems, but I learned plenty along the way.
  • Being deliberate is KEY!!!! If you don’t focus you won’t take any rest.
  • Opportunity Costs and FOMO were a doubt sandwich this month. The most effective use of time is somewhere in the middle.

My Incorrect Assumptions

  • Calendaring– My battle with calendars continues. 

Important Posts

Books

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Putting It Together – Creating Rest – April 2016

Take a second and breathe.

As automatic as our breathing is, it gets much more interesting when we do it with purpose. If you’ve never done it, take a second and try it now.

Steps:

  1. Put your cell phone away
  2. Sit somewhere comfortable
  3. Think about your breath
  4. Put your cell phone away
  5. Take a deep breath.
  6. Exhale
  7. PUT YOUR CELL PHONE AWAY
  8. Do this list (1-7) again.

Do you feel that? Your mind is a little more clear, you feel a little better, and the problems that felt close now gain some distance. You have room to think.

Some of the pressure is gone, and there is a little more room to maneuver. That is the power of purposeful rest, and that is also why I am making purposeful rest the theme for April.

This month’s theme ties into the Big Idea

At the end of last year I wrote a post that resulted in me picking four themes for 2016. They are the guiding light (strategic)  for my ideas. Each month on this blog, I break things down into the practical (tactical). This year I want to tie them together, so each month, I have to write the reason they connect.

I’ve gotten to the fourth theme and I am focusing on the “big idea”.

The “big idea” is a theme that ties in several others to create a meta idea, or an idea that is powerful enough to effect other ideas. Think of it as a foundation. So, the “big idea” is anything that builds on the assumptions I gained over the last few months.

Reread candidate

Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School
by John Medina – Rest and recovery are a part of a larger cycle, and it all starts with the brain. This book is a great primer on how it works.

Other candidates

Assumptions

  • Jan. AssumptionsI need to factor in accountability, calendaring, and experimentation.
  • Feb. Assumptions –  I need to factor in limited willpower.
  • Mar. Assumptions –  I need to factor in the idea of being deliberate and opportunity cost.
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The Outro: Organization

In 2015, I had decided that I was going to make each month have a theme. I had gotten the idea, on a smaller scale, from Jack Dorsey. He is a full-time CEO for two companies, and to help organize his day, he gives each day a theme. These themes allow him to select tasks and batch them so.

Now, I don’t have two companies that I am the CEO for (Yet 😉 ) but I have recognized the strategic value of using themes. I am able to circle around some of the things that I am weak on in the topic, and make it a point to get better. A little SWOTing never hurt nobody.

My theme for April was organization. It is a little fitting that I am able to finally put this together on the month of Organization – 3 months after starting.It reminds me how important organization is.

Wins:

  • A whiteboard in every room – Small investment, big impact. Pair this with the Checklist Manifesto, put down your to-dos and watch your systems roar. 
  • Clean Room – I have gotten rid of 90% of the clutter in my room. A lot easier to clean BTW.
  • My Book List is Around! – I have the book list organized.  It is available on my Google Drive! Link here and at the top of the blog, comment at your leisure.
  • I have a calendar! –  It is both in physical and digital form, with different functions. A lot to improve on here, but I love that it is here.

Losses:

  • Email isn’t quite right – I want to add a few more scripts. I did make a solid signature. If it brought you here – HI!
  • Contact List is in disarray – Still need some updating here. I really want to improve my contact list.
  • My Web Presence is Still Sparse – Disorganized, there is some work happening here, but I didn’t get enough done.
  • File collection & backup – It is all about availability. I moved a lot to Google Drive but there are some things that are missing.

I am leaving April a little more organized. It is exciting to see the progress laid out in front of me from my meetings with my accountability partner (I will be opening up our process soon via the blog) and being able to see the wins and losses quickly.

Hopefully on the 31st, I will be able to show some gains from theme Networking.

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