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If you ship consistently, you have more time.

Sounds like a paradox, doesn’t it?

“What do you mean, I have more time? I barely have any time now, with the (fill in your job, family, or bills here)!”

Life is always there, no matter what we do. What I am talking about here, though, is that when a creative team or person has a consistent shipping schedule, they often have more time than they think. What bothers me, is when we as creatives decide to squander it by thinking short-term.

The benefit of shipping consistently is that you build trust. Once you’ve gained a certain amount of trust, it is worth your time to expend some of it by creating boundaries. No becomes a more important word the more work you do.

When you create that time, it is critical you get uncomfortable. That clarifying conversation? Have it. That weird experiment that might not work? Do it. The point is that in building boundaries, you give yourself the space to do the things that “go first.” Those are often the “soft” things that evaporate under pressure.

As Tom Peters says – “Soft is hard. Hard is soft”The trick is, understanding your boundaries and realizing you can say no. Everyone thinks that thier request is a fire. It is your job as your self-advocate to determine what is and what isn’t and move forward.

Give yourself time. You’ve got more than you think, and it isn’t worth squandering. 

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[New Video Blog] Develop Personal Boundaries Or You’ll Burn Out

Set boundaries early and often. Recognize the constraints and adjust as soon as possible. Don’t fight the tide. Force break create space to make great.

Questions:

  • How will setting boundaries help me? (Real world example)
  • What does it look like when I don’t set boundaries?
  • Why is it that no boundaries leave people confused?
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Begin with Boundaries

Boundaries are all about risk mitigation

When we talk about limits, the first thing that may pop into your head is that it caps us.

In application, however, more often than not, boundaries help with damage control. They save us from ourselves.

That is why when we learn; it is imperative that we use boundaries to mitigate the risk that we may meet. Having too much too fast is a recipe for disaster.

 

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Cooperating isn’t Resigning – No One Has To “Win”

I once heard great advice.

“One should always be wary when presented with a binary choice.”

That is to say, if you have an “either/or,” where it can only be “this way or that way,” you need to be careful; there is probably more to learn.

Why is this important?

When talking about feelings, I usually hear one of two options:

  • Fight them
  • Resign yourself to them

This is the two option trap. As convenient as it is to split the world into black and white, there are side effects to such thinking.

In this example, you left yourself two options. Both create “sides” and through that, one side has to win, and the other has to lose. Win-loss scenarios are a breeding ground for hiding.

We don’t have to hide.

There are more options when we deal with our emotions, like cooperation.

People think cooperating and resigning are the same. They aren’t.

When one resigns themselves to feelings, they let them run free. With that freedom, they are unpredictable and controlling.

When one cooperates, they create boundaries, validating those feelings but not letting them control. There is no battle. One can listen.

And when you listen, neither side has to hide.

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