“And” vs. “But”
While reading The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional and Personal Life I came across a passage that focused on the power transforming “but” to “and.”
The short of it is, “but” gives us room to make excuses and freedom to bitch, moan. and complain. “But” seeks blame and comfort. Have you ever tried to change the subject on someone saying “but?” They won’t leave the point.
“And,” however, reminds us of our presence. Whatever hand we were dealt, we are here. “And” seeks responsibility. Using “and” pulls someone out of their emotional zone.
When you feel uncomfortable, notice when you are about to say “but” and switch it out for “and.”
Watch the difference.
From the desk of Adam Thomas 