Tag: decisions

The Default

Post author By jrlsage
Post date February 21, 2016

We accept the default

It’s human nature. We normally accept whatever is in front of us. Our brains can’t do the math, we work with too many stimuli per second to figure out every single decision. Our brains take the path of least resistance because we are on the lookout for things that could harm us.

This isn’t a bad thing, nor should you think of it as such. If we considered every option we would be paralyzed by choice. If you thought going through your closet in the morning on a stressful day is bad, considering every decision that presents itself to us is that feeling times 1000x.

So, we take the default, and we should, for most things. The hard part of life is determining of what defaults you don’t want to take and doing the hard work up from in changing them.

Don't accept the defaults you don't want

Tags accept, decisions, default, ruckus, seth godin, thought, video

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Focus Decisions and Fear

Post author By jrlsage
Post date February 13, 2016

Focus gets scary

Decision making is difficult, but when it happens, I’ve realized that I get better with focus. Putting my energy into something, especially with the “Do-Talk-Consume” principle, really digs deep. My life becomes engrossed in whatever discipline I choose. But, to pick that thing, I have to decide, and decisions come with a level of fear I don’t get when I decide to live with no boundaries.

Some of those fears.

The What fear – What if I don’t do this right, what if I am not good enough, what if I don’t do enough, what if I fail publicly, etc.
The Why fear – Why do I want this so bad, why is everyone doing this, why am I scared, why can’t this get easy, etc.
The How fear – How do I do this, how do I work, how does any of this work, how much is this going to cost, how much time, etc.
The Who fear – Who am I to do this, who chooses this, who will like this, who will get this, etc.
The When fear – When will I be done, when will I win, when will I lose, when will this pay off, etc.

Eventually I realize

We can’t do everything for everybody. Time is the only resource we have, and the only way we get to make that time count is if we sit down and work through the above fears. Each one of the questions runs through our minds when we decide to give something focus because we start abstaining from “all that life has to offer.” There is an opportunity cost with everything – things we accept and things we don’t. The fear boils down to that. The greatest truth is, we only have time. We have to make decisions to make that time count.

Note: The bold questions are the biggest offenders to me.

Tags art, consciousness, decision making, decisions, fear, Focus, how, how I work, what, when, who, why

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When You Debate Things,Think of The Debate As A River

Post author By jrlsage
Post date December 14, 2015

debate

It’s best to think of a debate as a river.

When deciding what you want to do, you check the speed of the river, the length, and what other obstacles are in your way.

Then you are down to one of three options on your decision.

You can build a boat to bring people to your side.
Build a bridge to cross it yourself.
Stay on your side.

Each decision comes with its pro’s and cons. You decide which one is right. Every river is different, so its useless to pick one strategy and go with it.

Whatever you pick, it isn’t worth complaining or trying to think about the other options.

Once you make that decision, move on. If you need to readdress the issue, the river isn’t going anywhere.

Tags bridge building, debate, decision making, decisions, move on, pro and con, river

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Superfriends

Find your super friends.

Find your rouges gallery.

Then try to understand why you picked that side.

Tags batman, decisions, heroes, villain