Destructive Self Talk – From the desk of Adam Thomas

Self Destructive Talk is real

I’ve heard the saying “everywhere you go you take ‘you’ with you.”

The truth in that saying is pretty clear.

It is interesting that I came into this month in a depressive funk, even before I knew what the theme was. It speaks to the nature of how self-talk can come out of nowhere and take over our decision-making if we let it.

There are a ton of ways it can do that, like having us make arguments in our heads which sap our energy with no payoff.

It can tell you to “vent” and strengthen those neural pathways to make remembering our pain easier.

Even worse, we can pretend it doesn’t exist, which charges the feelings until they explode.

So what do we do?

The first thing is to face the fear. Take time to investigate the where that self-destructive talk lives.
We then seek allies, like our friends and family, to show our fears and how it affects us. Note, this is different from venting which focuses on the actions of others. This activity focuses on ourselves and our fears.
Then, keeping a regular self-rejuvenating practice, like meditation or therapy to help regulate.

Finally, understand that the talk is a part of us. It is a warning signal that things are changing.

Don’t run away from it.

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Can you do this?

No really, can you?

Before I start anything, that question hits me on the head.

Then the spiral of self-doubt happens.

As human beings, we remember the “bad” at a higher rate than the “good, ” and they are stored explicitly for the moment of new.

At a moments notice, the destructive self-talk begins.

We all experience it, especially if we work on anything that has an impact. I never have destructive self-talk hit me when I make a PB&J.

The difference between those who craft impact consistently are the people who learn how to get through it.

That is why Destructive Self Talk is the theme for August 2017.

At the end of last year, I wrote a newsletter highlighting the “three tenets of leadership.” Each month, I take a topic related to one of the three tenets and write about my ideas and experience around the topic.

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Never Eat Alone, Expanded and Updated: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time by Keith Ferrazzi – Figuring out what we want takes work. One of the aspects that can often be overlooked is the power of community, and how it can hone our wants into something palpable. Also, once you know what you want, you might want to know who can get it for you. Fantastic, actionable book.