You can’t just say “no” to everyone.
It’s hard to say no to certain people. They usually come with titles such as “manager,” “CEO,” or “mom.”
As Bob Dylan sang, “We all have to serve somebody.” And the dynamics at play won’t allow an outright “no.”
That being said, these people want the best for you because it is in their best interest. Your success helps them look good and meet their goals. To work at your best, you have to say “no” to some things.
But, you are in the odd place of not being able to say “no” directly.
How can you navigate that?
I have an exercise that can help with this conundrum.
Exercise:
The plan is to ask to rank their needs and with that, get the prioritization to get the “no” you are looking for in any environment where you have to deal with an authoritative structure (i.e. the office)
- When the “ask” happens, return the favor by asking a few questions:
- What is the priority, on a 1 -10 basis?
- When do you need this by?
- What resources are available for this?
- Say what you need to get her (the boss) away, and have an email ready that asks those questions again, along with a list of your current projects.
- Ask where you want her to slot that new ask, and if any of this is can come off your “plate.”
This exercise “stops them as they ask,” giving people the opportunity to redirect energy and remind them of what is important (something we all could use) at the same time. It saves your energy so you can focus on what matters.
Win-win.
From the desk of Adam Thomas 