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Late but…

Doing something is better than nothing

The alarm clock is going off.

This sounds regular, but this time, you have a sinking feeling. This feeling doesn’t feel right. You look at the clock.

Suspicion confirmed, late again.

You kick off your blanket and swear like it could slow down the clock.

After you tumble into the shower, you grab your toothbrush and start to multitask as if your life depends on it.

From here, you have two options:

  • Run out the door as soon as possible
  • Do the rest of your morning routine, but in a rushed and shortened way. 

Your best bet for having a smooth day lies in the second, counter-intuitive option.

You are late. 5 – 10 more minutes late won’t end the world.

Use that time to find a center with your routine.

It’s not perfect, and you won’t cross all the T’s or dot all the I’s, but your rhythm will fit.

The reason for this is that our brain works on rhythm (or system one thinking) to get through the day. It doesn’t take much for the brain to feel comfortable, merely starting the habit gets the brain where it needs to go.

When you don’t get to the habit, then you spend energy. That’s why the rest of the late day feels terrible; your body is trying to compensate. 

Something is better than nothing at all.

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The Hidden Phone Update – It’s Working Out Well

Two weeks ago, I decided to hide my phone before bed.

So far, I’ve noticed:

  • A marginal increase in my “before bed” sleep quality.
  • Incentives work.
  • A massive increase in my post wake-up quality.

I thought that not having my phone around in the morning would just speed up my routine. Instead, my phone absence motivated me to do my work.

It’s improved my discipline when it came to morning habits.

 

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Life As Usual Video Blog #7 – Habits

Every week I do a video blog (of VLOG). This week I talked about habits.

When I started this,  I was very scared of putting myself on video, so I got the courage and put myself in the arena, killing a lot of bad self talk.This gives me the chance to work on my communication skills, start a new medium, and experiment!

Once a week, after I have thought about them, I will give them a day here on the blog.

These aren’t just promotion posts (although they are, please watch and share :-) ) I want to take the time to break them down and try to clarify what I want to communicate and the tactical things I learned through doing.

If you enjoyed the video, and if you want to get on the ride, please,subscribe to the YouTube channel, and join the Facebook page where they post every Sunday night.

What I Wanted To Communicate About Habits

I wanted to tie this weeks video with last weeks, so I made a video about habits, which has a strong tie to accountability.

I hit on three bullet points

  • Habits – What they are and why it’s important to look at them.
  • Ritual – The way you go about getting the habit done. The ritual is important because our bodies work in rhythm. Rituals give the bass line.
  • Starting Small – No one ever started weight lifting 225, so why do we do that with habits? Starting small makes it easier to work.

What I Learned Doing This Video

  • I look away a lot. I have to learn how to keep a straight face on the camera.
  • Editing this one was easier, I am getting more comfortable.
  • Instead of cutting one long tape, trying to do it in sequence I could do things in segments. They don’t have to have order either.

If you enjoyed the video, and if you want to get on the ride, please, subscribe to the YouTube Channel, and join theFacebook page where they post every Sunday night.

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Errors Happen

This month I have made a bunch of errors.

  • My contest ended late
  • I slipped up on not drinking (3 times)
  • Ordered out (5 times)
  • Missed journaling (5 times)
  • Missed meditation (7 times)

There are errors in your life. The key isn’t to focus on the failure, but what changes you can make when it happens

  • Next Contest are marked on my calendar
  • Not letting someone buy me a drink, explaining I don’t need to drink
  • Locking our seamless unless necessary – a food list on my PC
  • Keeping my journal by my bed and my books
  • Linking meditation with another habit.

 

It isn’t how you fall, but how you get back up.

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Paper Clips Can Change Your Life – Physical Reminders

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We are too hard on our brains. I love being hard on mine. I’ll find myself sitting around and blaming my brain for mistakes. My self criticism isn’t helpful, in fact, it is cruel. Cruel enough to paralyze.

But, through the lense of self-doubt, improvement is difficult. Changing the mindset to growth instead of fixed helps us see the problem in a new light.

Our brains are not the problem. The problem is we rely on it to do things it isn’t good at. The brain sucks at memorization because it doesn’t have to do it anymore. Phone numbers go in your phone, the oven has a timer, and the TV show ends on the hour.  Trying to remember or keep track of things aren’t in our best interests, we don’t have to do it throughout the day, so why try?

That’s where checklists come in. I love checklists. But with checklists, it is easy to forget where you are. A static list somewhere in your room isn’t helpful when you are in the thick of a task.

That’s where physical reminders come in.

Physical reminders make achieving objectives easier.  By having something represent the task in front of us, its easy to remember what is happening. It takes pressure off our brain.

Using physical objects to represent a checklist is a great way to make sure all the boxes get checked off.

When I wake up in the morning, I lay everything I need to do or a symbol of it on my bed. It forces me to make my bed, and I see exactly whats in front of me.  I can’t skip a step, because if I do, when I put on my last piece of clothing (which signals I should walk out the door) it will stick out like a sore thumb.

James Clear‘s blog says it best.

In 1993, a bank in Abbotsford, Canada hired a 23-year-old stock broker named Trent Dyrsmid.

Dyrsmid was a rookie so nobody at the firm expected too much of his performance. Moreover, Abbotsford was still a relatively small suburb back then, tucked away in the shadow of nearby Vancouver where most of the big business deals were being made. The first popular email services like AOL and Hotmail wouldn’t arrive for another two or three years. Geography still played a large role in business success and Abbotsford wasn’t exactly the home of blockbuster deals.

And yet, despite his disadvantages, Dyrsmid made immediate progress as a stock broker thanks to a simple and relentless habit that he used each day.

On his desk, he placed two jars. One was filled with 120 paper clips. The other was empty. This is when the habit started.

“Every morning I would start with 120 paper clips in one jar and I would keep dialing the phone until I had moved them all to the second jar.”
—Trent Dyrsmid

And that was it. 120 calls per day. One paper clip at a time.

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As you can see, physical reminders are awesome. Something as small as paper clips can change your life.

 

 

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Compartmentalizing into a Broken Dam and Wasted Energy

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Compartmentalizing has two major flaws. It is a mental form of multi tasking and it creates emotional dams.

When we see ourselves multi task, the focus is on how many things , but you often miss just how much energy expended on overhead.  Doing multiple things at once isn’t free, and you pay the price of juggling by being worse than if you gave them your full attention. When I compartmentalized, I saw this happen and I haven’t been aware of the consequences until recently.

You can champion bad habits, and I loved to champion my compartmentalization. For me, it meant that I could experience different social circles, but the overhead was rarely being myself. When I was younger, I tried to separate the geek side from things I thought were socially acceptable. I became good at both sides. If I got in a conversation about basketball, the civil war, or the Konami code, I can engage.

I got to understand trends, even while having a social life, but internally I suffered. The cost of compartmentalizing was a disconnect that weighs on me right now.I got to experience a ton of things, but since I never fully invested in anything, I missed opportunities to connect fully with people, and I regret that.The gap between the two groups of friends is huge. The friends from either side have never met, to this day.  But even more, I missed an opportunity to connect with myself.

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I haven’t stopped as an adult. I compartmentalize daily and now more than ever, I see the problem of the emotional dam cracking. Our emotions are like water. No matter how hard we try to keep them out of the other parts of our lives, they get through.  The walls represent wasted energy and even worse, they hold the emotional water until it overflows or the dam cracks. For me, when the dam bursts, I work towards self sabotage until I get the dam rebuilt, which takes energy and leaves me in a worse place than when I started.

By being honest, and taking down those walls, that water can drain safely and we save our energy.

 

 

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6 MONTHS! Writing Everyday for 6 months!

One of the reasons why I reignited this blog was to recommit to consistency. I have achieved that with my latest streak of writing. I have written everyday in this blog for six months (please hold the confetti).

Before I started this streak, I wanted to write. I have been a writer for a while, so I had an air of confidence that I could do the job.  However, when I sat down, all I could think of was expectation. I had no readers, but the minute I sat down I already imagined the complaints that I would get.  By the time I went down the list of worries in my head I turned a simple blog post into a peer-reviewed article that needed top-secret clearance. In short, I catastopized and it made me paralyzed.

 

That’s constantly hovering over me, and it is one of the reasons why I am not known for my consistency. As a matter of fact, if you asked anyone who knows me well,me writing something consistently for 6 months would sound strange.This blog didn’t happen all at once(it took me more than 4 years to start writing regularly) and it was a defined process. If I have learned anything it is that by leaning on willpower you end up with a quick recipe for disaster.Staring at these posts is a reminder of the strength behind the power or habit, and just showing up to do work everyday.

This month’s theme has been habits. I have written consistently for six months. This is the habit I am most proud of, so I can think of no better subject to break down when it comes to keeping a habit up.I have distilled it to three main ideas and when I implemented them.

  1. Starting Small – This was the biggest barrier of entry. I finally started small, forcing myself to write 3 sentences a day, and started to worry about just getting the 3 sentences down. The streak started that day (February 4,2015)
  2. Accountability – I put my blog in my email, it is on every card that I hand out, and in every guest post that I do. I made it impossible for me to not write anything without embarrassment. I make it a point to write that I say something everyday, and that became the next expectation. Every new person I meet will get a post in the email I send. Knowing this, I can’t afford to not have something new up everyday, unless I put my honor on the line (my twitter name is TheHonorableAT – as you could guess, my honor means a lot to me)  (March 15th,2015)
  3. Constantly Learning – When I let go of the big posts, and I stopped letting myself off the hook, I recognized that if I am here everyday, I could experiment often. I have tried video posts, audio posts, music reviews, how to’s, personal journaling, contests and more. Each day is an opportunity to try something new. If I fail I fail, but with this blog I can work out the kinks. I switched over to a growth mindset, and everyday I feel more and more confident with each experiment.  ( April 20th, 2015)

Every day is a chance to get better. I have really enjoyed writing here 6 months in a row, and I can’t wait to connect in another 6 months to see the things I learned in a year.

 

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Sunday – A Journey From A Weekend Warrior

Sunday,

9:30 AM. No Alarms, no to do list, no scheduled work. I wake up, put on some slippers and walk downstairs to the corner store to pick up a bacon egg and cheese and some gummy worms. Get back upstairs, argue about the status of Kirk Heinrich with my roommate for 20 minutes(If that sounds ridiculous, it should. If it doesn’t, then you are either watching too much NBA or not enough) and cut on the XBox. Make some jokes about what is on the front screen, fire up the video game I am playing at the time(now, Rouge Nation) and play for 3 or 4 hours. Swear I am going to the coffee shop later. Put off the list in front of me.

2:30 PM.Get up, go back to the corner store, pick up a sandwich and come back to my apartment, argue with my roommate about whether Wesley Snipes is an action star for 30 minutes. Text some people, waiting responses back with no conversation aim, put on something on Netflix and prepare a movie marathon. Kick my feet up on my coffee table and text while the movies are playing back to back. Cook dinner in between to “save time”.  Miss some of the scenes, but go to Wikipedia after and hope that I can pick it up later.

10:00 PM. Start my process for bed. Try to start cleaning but puts one of the three items I need to clean (Kitchen,  Living Room, Bedroom) off till tomorrow. Take out the trash but don’t look for any trash around . Fire off some emails, just reactive. Save  anything of substance for Monday morning. Look at the books in the corner of my bed, say I can read them tomorrow, go back out and argue with my roommate about the use of boots in the winter and make a few jokes for about 45 minutes. Go back to my room and play some games on my iPhone. Stare at the ceiling and get to sleep around 2 AM.

This looks harsh, but it is my typical Sunday. It is a reminder of why I need some habits to get involved with. Hopefully, when I look at a Sunday at the end of the month, some of this can change. Except the arguing. That won’t ever stop – some battles you can’t wait to engage in.

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The Case For the Monthly Cleanse.

Face it, we live junk filled lives.If you look at your desk, I wager you could find at least 3 things you haven’t used in the last month. Some things, such as your work from home key-fob, or your winter sweater are there for a season and a reason, but for most of the other things, they are simply clutter. I was a huge offender, my desk filled with papers, electronics, and anything else you may find on a desk.  For me, it felt comfortable to just keep my stuff there, but after reading “Everything That Remains” ( A strong candidate on the reread list) and subscribing to Zen Habits, I recognized how much brain space “junk” can take. That is why I recently started adding a monthly deep cleanse where I do my work.  The freedom of space will give you more room to work and forcing yourself to make decisions will improve your “stuff” awareness, training yourself to not waste time picking things you wont use again.

People who support messy desks often  lament about a desk clearing. One of the main concerns comes from the way they organize thoughts. “If I have everything I need on the desk, then I can grab it at any time.” If you were to talk to me 18 months ago, I was that same person.  Every time I would clean my desk, it would get cluttered again. I would have access to everything “I needed”. Although I had this theory, in practice, it never worked. I would be late for assignments, when someone asked me for something it would take time, and it wasn’t visually appealing.  When I made this a point to do monthly cleanses, to understand my surroundings, things changed. Socially, people happened to talk to me more and personally, the organization improved my efficiency.

Being aware of junk is the other half of the battle. I never gave it any thought. A new trinket would sit on my desk for a few days, and then just gather dust. When I started to clean my desk every month, I started to take inventory of I had on the desk. It became very clear, very quickly, that most of the things I had didn’t help me do my job, and it didn’t help me learn. In fact, by not being aware, I would lose anything that wasn’t in front of me very quickly. I lacked a system and had too much faith in my mental tracking faculties. Just by being aware, and keeping track, I improved my work and my energy by learning the priority and the use of things. It became a simple check – “Will this make my life better, and for how long?” If it didn’t answer that question, I started to give things away. Instantly, keeping the clutter out of my life became easier.

It is tough to throw things out, but by using monthly cleanses we keep our place clean and do so regularly. Making  and keeping your desk clean simply gives you more room to think. “Stuff” awareness allows you to really consider what you need. In my experience, keeping my desk clean was one of the key factors in clearing my mind to take on bigger and better projects.

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You Need Sleep

Sleep is important, you cannot survive without it. People pride themselves on a lack of sleep, however, as the world gets more knowledgeable about sleep this is wrong-headed. Sleep cannot be understated, you need to get it if you plan on being at the top of your game. It is critical for you to get at least 6 hours of sleep every night. Proper sleep promotes knowledge retention and allows you to keep your complete attention throughout the day.

All the knowledge in the world means nothing if you don’t keep it. Your value to the important people in your life is often based on how much you know as well as how you communicate it. I often notice when I don’t sleep, I lose the ability to come up with facts and figure any structure. The result is a lack of confidence from the people around me and a lack of control on my part. It doesn’t look good, and I seem like I didn’t do my homework. Your brain does a cleanup at night. It takes everything you took in that day, whether it be from experience,book, or conversation, and begins the process of sorting it. If you don’t sleep long enough, you don’t get the benefit of this process, and most of the things you learned that day go away.

Your attention is important, especially if you want to learn anything. We all know how it feels  out of sorts, staring into space to try to understand what is happening in front of us. It all seems like gibberish, the “huh” moment. It feels like wasted time, and it essentially is. What is the point of sitting and learning things you can give your attention. Like knowledge retention, getting enough REM sleep is known to give relief and allow the attention to get better.

IF you miss at least 6 hours of sleep, then it is like driving a car without proper maintenance. It runs, and no one will know the difference, but you are eventually will head for a breakdown. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, and sleep helps your body in all types of ways, especially when keeping your attention and retention. Your sharpness depends on your sleep, and without it, you are going half speed.

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