It’s hard to get our feelings out.
Have you ever argued with a friend or coworker (or even scarier, your boss!) and you weren’t sure if your opinion had enough weight? Your ace in the hole is often “the people.” They are always there for you.
So, we hide behind the idea of “people.” If a group of people feel the way I feel, then I am not wrong.
“Everyone knows this is silly,” so this is silly.
We also do the inverse to martyr ourselves. “No one sees this the way I do.”
It is a way to get out of exploring those feelings. If people are for or against you, there is no reason to explain. I think it ruins the discussion. It allows a way out when you aren’t sure how valid the feelings we have are.
Your feelings are valid. Stand behind them. Trust them enough to engage in conversation. What comes out will surprise you.
From the desk of Adam Thomas 