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Get Out of Your Head

Don’t worry about the damn box.

If you’ve been in a meeting with a team on a deadline, you’ve faced this or something like it.

Instead of worrying about the next big problem, people, with a need to show they are participating, start a conversation about a trivial thing.

In the product world, it usually goes to a box. Suddenly, we need to worry about placement, color, action, and if it all makes sense. The meeting loses 10 to 15 minutes, and instead of maximizing a time of connection, we’ve all just talked about a box no one is going to use anyway.

We do that in our personal lives, too. Instead of worry about our next potential product, the broomstick suddenly gets essential.

You may not be able to change the meeting, but, you can change your behavior. When you feel it coming, take a breath and tell yourself “Stop worrying about the damn box.”

Then get back to work.

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The Rabbit and The Turtle Is A Lie

There is no “race” to win.

  • No, there isn’t a competition between you and your coworker.
  • Nobody keeps track of anything until something is wrong.
  • No, there is no universal scoreboard.

If we let our ego tell it, the world is a reality show, and we are the star. We better do something big with our stardom too, because we could get canceled.

This idea is nonsense.

Take your time, do it right, and maintain your focus. The truth is, although we hear about the “Tortoise and the Hare,” in real life, there is no race.

Only progress.

 

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Hate-Sharing, Venting, and Keeping the Bad Feeling Alive

Don’t  do it

Yesterday I shared something on Facebook that I didn’t agree with. In my post, I stated that the article below wasn’t good. It was standard, trivial, click bait nonsense. I thought that I was sharing a lesson.

People shared it and I thought I was doing the world some good. I started looking at the shares.

Uh oh. 

People were taking the article as helpful. They didn’t see my warning, they just started sharing.

In my “hate share,” I propagated the article to the world around me. It was a mistake.

Then I realized, we do the same thing when we “vent.” We intend to warn, but when others tell the story, they usually get it wrong. You end up putting people on to something that doesn’t help them grow. They share the click bait and not the warning.

When we “let out steam,” we do so in an emotional state.

This has some after effects:

  • We put the emotion on a treadmill, letting it run around our lives.  Anger doesn’t solve much in such an uncontrolled state, it goes back to “fight or flight.”
  • Introducing something to your social group that doesn’t help them. They might share something from it that wasn’t your intent.

“Venting” doesn’t vent the bad feelings out, it pushes them into other parts of your life.

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