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Great Leaders Don’t Pay You to Know

One of the worst things a leader can say to someone is “I pay you to know.”

Two consequences stand out:

  • You’ve told the people around you that curiosity is a waste of time
  • There are penalties for being wrong

No one wants to make a mistake.

When you are doing things that create impact, trying for perfection creates chaos.

One of the wisest things I’ve ever heard is the phrase “to make an omelet you have to break a few eggs.”

Creating is a messy business.  Eggs in the shell don’t look like an omelet. They have none of the value that omelet provides to a hungry person.

To get that wonderful breakfast, you have to get messy, involve a bunch of moving parts, and look a little silly (especially if you want it to look good :]).

When you say “I pay you to be right” you’re asking them to work with the egg in the shell and not explore. It’s a major handicap to look good and stay clean.

Don’t handicap your team in the name of your ego.

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A Short Deadline Exercise

Short deadlines can bring out the best in you, especially if paired with some accountability.

Quick exercise:

First watch this:

Then: for the next thing on your to-do list (or calendar)* move the deadline up to today, and promise to pay if you miss. 

I am always amazed at what focus  and accountability can do 🙂

Let me know what happens.

*Anything within reason. You aren’t going to ship that full-fledged marketing plan in a day… or maybe you can? 

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Forgive Yourself First.

No one is better at criticizing yourself than you are.

Who else knows where all the buried bodies are? You are the only person that knows every secret you’ve held, every person you’ve wronged, and all the mistakes you’ve made. All those phony apologies, well, you know those too.

When it comes to all the mistakes you’ve made you are a bona fide expert.  It holds you back, because you can’t get better without giving yourself permission first.

That is where it starts. Punishment comes from all sides, even from our own head. We have to decide to turn off the valve of self-destruction and decide to stop adding on to the pain. Only then can the process of healing begin.

There is a concept in money management where when you get your paycheck you stop and pay yourself first. You do this because often with money, we forget to take the time to think about ourselves. You take the time to worry about the urgent and not the future.

We treat ourselves that way. In self management, you have to start with forgiving yourself first, because we don’t think about the future, we think about the urgent.

So, give yourself the chance to get better.

Start with yourself and forgive.

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