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2017 In Review: Top 10 Book Suggestions

Reading is a Super Power

I have a love affair with books. I use the term love affair because my habits around them tend to be as chaotic as relationships tend to be. For example, in 2015 I spent a lot of time reading non-fiction, philosophy, and some metaphysics around self-awareness. If you switch over to 2016, you’ll see much more focus on the psychology of execution.

The effect is the same, they changed how I saw the world, sometimes much later than expected.

One thing I’ve recognized is that the effects of such books surface much later than when you read them. A book’s worth is measured by how much it affects your DNA, your perception, and what you think is possible. The books listed here have made a dent, and I recommend them because they might do something for you as well.

Without further ado, Top 10 Book Selections

Pitch Anything: An Innovative Method for Presenting, Persuading, and Winning the Deal By Oren Klaff

Power dynamics exist. I think it is important to state that up front because it is comfortable to dismiss this when it is comfortable. “Type A” personalities or those in contact with “type A” need to have a toolset to operate. Pitch Anything gives that person something to work with to start to read a room, and then transform it to help your purposes. Dismiss this at your peril. If there is a nagging part of you that says “I don’t need to use persuasion because I have all the facts,” know that the person that doesn’t have the facts is counting on you keeping the “high ground.” Don’t let the world suffer because of your ego.

Use: power dynamics, negotiation

The Knowledge: A Too Close To True Novel By Steven Pressfield

This book was my first time reading Steven Pressfield fiction, and I am happy to say it is a page-turner just like his nonfiction. The Knowledge is a fictionalization of Pressfield’s life, and inside the margins, you’ll find lessons on understanding “the work,”  the mysticism surrounding the creative process, the power of distraction, your own bullshit and so much more. Creatives heed, this book will help explain some of the strange things that tend to happen when you want to get something done.

Use: understanding yourself, creative process

Perennial Seller: The Art of Making and Marketing Work That Lasts by Ryan Holiday

Crafting something is hard. Putting it into perspective is even harder. Wanting something “now!” and thinking the rest of the world is ready for it is a trap that we, as makers, continuously fall into when we make things. Ready for an uncomfortable truth? The last thing you’ve made wasn’t ready for primetime, and unless you make some changes in how you work and seek feedback, you won’t grow from it. Ryan Holiday has written something that has shifted my perspective on the process and as a result, improved the quality of what I am working on, project wise. You’ll see the results in 2018.

Use: process, growth

SuperBetter: A Revolutionary Approach to Getting Stronger, Happier, Braver and More Resilient – Powered by the Science of Games By Jane McGonigal, Ph.D

Depression is a part of me, and it has taken almost 30 years of life to acknowledge it. It has been hard to talk about, much less tackle as a part of my personality. That is what makes what Jane McGonigal’s work so important. I’ve never had a book describe tools to help manage anxiety, sadness, and overwhelm in such a fun way. Each of the quests contains methods to use your self to get you better quickly.

Use: self-awareness, depression management

The Chomsky Reader  by Noam Chomsky

Noam Chomsky is known as America’s most cited scholars and isn’t just the father of modern linguistics, but also is a leading voice in history, foreign policy, and politics. This book contains many of his critiques on topics such as the intellectual class, class warfare, crimes perpetrated by America/Western Europe on communities around the world, and many other enlightening topics. He also takes the time to cite everything, giving you the opportunity to refute (if you are curious). This book was an important stepping stone to help me understand the world around me.

Use: foreign policy, social policy

Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha by Tara Brach

Man. The inner critic in my head screams at me all the time. Every mistake, both perceived and real, are used as ammunition in this trial that never ends. This book from Tara Brach is a reminder that this is a journey. We are not judged by each step, or even by where we go. Life is about the experience, and we are striving to be our best selves. I leave this on my shelf to remind me that I and others are doing the best they can, and give my inner critic a break.

Use: inner critic, self-reflection

The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships by Neil Strauss

This book is uncomfortable. It lives to the subtitle by investigating love, intimacy, and sex in a raw, well-written way. As part autobiography and part therapy session, Neil Strauss lets you into many worlds, including sex parties, harems, and even sex addict therapy. Even more interestingly though, he talks about himself, his relationships, and his growth. Strauss bares all, and in it got me thinking about the relationships in my life much more proactively while helping me drop my judgments on how people express themselves sexually. A tall order and he delivers.

Use: Relationships, sexuality

Product Management in Practice: A Real-World Guide to the Key Connective Role of the 21st Century  by Matt Lemay

This year has been my first year being an official “product manager.” As a product strategist, I’ve had to learn how to do almost everything that a product manager does, on the fly. To assist that, I’ve read a bunch of books on the subject, while calling on my experience as a founder and mainframe architect. Matt Lemay has written the only book that I feel accurately captures the day to day I experience, along with the decisions I have to make. If you want to be a product, and wonder what it is like, read this.

Use: Product management, strategy, decision making

Against Interpretation and Other Essays by Susan Sontag

Susan Sontag is known as one of America’s greatest essayists. This compilation will show you why. She has a fiery point of view and writes courageously about the arts, white / male supremacy, and life itself. I made a goal to implement more gender diversity in my reading in 2017, and like the book that I started this year with, this opened my eyes to a well written, clear, honest view of the world that made me feel uncomfortable and as a result, helped me grow. Pick it up.

Use: perspective, art, excellent critique

Nobody Wants to Read Your Sh*t: Why That Is And What You Can Do About It  by Steven Pressfield

Ha! Twice in one year. I’ve loved what I’ve read from Steven Pressfield this year, and this short, impactful, compelling book is no different. Here, he talks about his career, ranging from being an ad man to picking apples in California (yes, seriously) and puts together lessons he learned to write something some wants to read. It is a reminder that the arc of a career is long, and every piece of your journey informs another. If you are just starting, please believe no one wants to read, listen, see, or anything else with your shit, but if you stay uncomfortable and dedicated, one day someone will. This book helps you know that.

Use: Process, journey, creating

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100 Books, A Mistake?

New Isn’t Always Better

In 2015, I read over 100 books, most of which came out in 2015.

I started noticing something disturbing.

Most of them were saying the same thing.

Now, I don’t mean they were carbon copies of each other. I mean they stayed in the same boundaries.

Consider that most of them had:

  • Come from the same few publishers.
  • Had authors that had similar experiences (“Educated,” upper middle class)
  • Even a few had used the same sources.

I realized I didn’t read 100 different books. I read the same ten books written ten different ways each.

The philosopher Schopenhauer wrote this:

It is because people will only read what is the newest instead of what is the best of all ages, that writers remain in the narrow circle of prevailing ideas, and that the age sinks deeper and deeper in its own mire.

 

 

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My Bookshelf System – a Forcing Function to Help Me Prioritize

My bookshelf creates priorities

I love to read.

In the few years, I’ve come into contact with close to 200 books.

No, that doesn’t mean read (I am not a robot). It means that I need bookshelves :-).

Books are physical objects. They take up space. If you aren’t careful, they can take over your residence.

That jibes against my minimalist tendencies.

So I’ve developed a system to keep my books relevant and help me prioritize:

  • One bookshelf holds new books(50) – I can’t buy new books unless they fit here. This amount stops me from going too far ahead and creating a system of despair (“There is no way I can read allllllllllllll these books”)
  • One bookshelf holds books I can keep(50) – I can’t hang on to books unless they are relevant and I reference them often. This shelf is full. Now, I have to give something away if it doesn’t fit.(“I have too many books.“)

This simple system forces me to prioritize and is an exercise to build the skill of prioritization.

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Go With the Flow

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Flow is amazing.

What is flow? Flow is when you concentrate on a particular task so much that everything else drops out of focus.  It’s “in the zone.”

Ever had one of those days where you worked on something at 9 and the next time you looked up it was 4:30?

That’s flow.

As a result of flow, I’ve written things in a day that otherwise would take a week.

It’s that powerful and as a tool, it can 10x your workflow.

It’s beautiful and finicky. Be careful.

Flow disappears with any interruption.

This fickleness is worth thinking about before “pinging.”Getting a person’s attention is a cost.

It’s worth the time to study this subject – and I recommend the book Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi.

TED Talk:

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Do It One More Time…

Don’t take in curated information once

What I mean by curated is that you’ve made a purposeful decision. Purposeful in the sense that “I clicked this video” or “I went to this conference.”It was a decision you’ve made.

Most engagements with information* have a ton of lessons, usually more than we can get in the first go-around. What is a way to get more out of what I got? 

Take some time away from the material, and then do it again. 

If you are a note taker, don’t bring the notes you have from the first session with you, draft a new set of notes for the second go.

What I find when I do this is that I see things in a completely different way, usually the way that is relevant now.   It’s a step towards understanding and away from skimming.

This sounds time intensive. It is.

The other half of this is understanding how to filter the good from the bad.

Then it requires a lot of “no.”

Your ROI jumps from your own decision making, and I think that’s worth it.

*Decent to good books usually hammer the same information over and over, so they are usually good for just one reading.

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Martin Luther King Jr Day – Taking Some Time.

Spending my day reading this

A complicated, deep person who had convictions, and the ambition to knock on doors to get things done. He took risks, fell, got back up. A person who built coalitions, he eventually died because he effected the world so much.

Today is a great day to meditate on this.

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End of The Year! My Mega Post On What’s Happened and What Will Happen! 2015!!!!!

The end of the year

As we walk into a new calendar year, I want to take the time to lay out what went well, what happened unexpectedly, and what went wrong. Each of these things have a lesson in them, especially the failures, and documenting them helps not only me, but anyone who reads them know that there are lessons in anything.

The end of December is a great time to deal with clean slate thinking (since everyone else is) and work out what didn’t go well and what did go well over the last year. It was both exhilarating and painful to write this, but so is anything else that’s good.

What happened in 2015

I spent the last few days sitting over and thinking about the goals I set in 2015, and what they mean for me. Usually when I do this, I try to pull a bunch of notebooks out and crawl over the notes, hoping to find some nugget of wisdom to move into the next year, but having this blog, and forcing myself to go through that process every month, made me sharper in dealing with whats important and knowing what to write.

So, my process got better.  But what did I do that got better over the last year?

 

Expected

  • I expected to get more confident – I wasn’t confident. Over the last few years, I saw my confidence erode due to problems at work, an expanding waistline, and, dealing with some of the darker sides of comedy. So, I made a point to get confident again. It started with reading, then doing. Tools like online workshops meshed with networking events. Building my contact list and providing value to the people on it gave me more juice. By the end of 2015, I am starting to feel like the old me again, and I love it since my plans for 2016 involve me making a few scary leaps.
  • Better read – I worked myself into a good reader. I started the year as an “ok” reader, taking time to read when I could, but by the end of the year I got back to enjoying books. It’s become a bit of an addiction. The benefits are tremendous. 100 books later I feel like a better reader and a writer. I read so much I learned I had to change my strategy though, but more on that later.
  • Connecting more with family/friends – It felt like I didn’t talk to anyone in 2014, but now my relationships are in a great place. It started strangely, automating my texts to friends and family (sounds cold but it worked by forcing me into a conversation) and then  eventually spending more time.I made sure the time meant more too with no cell phone, no computer, no books. I put my attention on them.
  • Clutter – I started this year with a ton of stuff. Now I don’t have that stuff anymore. It’s nice to walk in my apartment and have room to move and nothing to clean up. I feel like my mind freed up.
  • Physical Appearance – It’s always interesting to see how things morph. At first I thought of ways to exercise, but I found out about coaching in February and took a chance. She walked me through and taught me a ton over the 6 weeks we worked together, and now I am the sharpest guy in the room most days. That gave me the confidence to lose weight (down 30 pounds this year) and work on the other parts of my appearance (Sharp haircut, shoes, etc)

Unexpected

  • The video blog  – I never thought about doing video until this year. I hated recording. Now, I am glad its out there. Its been a way for me to try to understand how I come across, and work to get better in a medium that is just getting more and more widespread.

  • My social media – I read Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook: How to Tell Your Story in a Noisy Social World in 2014 and thought I understood it, but it took almost a year of thinking, and finally experimenting (because of this blog) to get the most out of the book.
  • This blog – Speaking of the blog, I knew I was going to write more in 2015, but to look at this now and see that I’ve done over 300 posts in a year amazes me. I’ve become a better writer, better at getting my ideas out, and better at delivering content. I can’t wait to see what lessons writing for over 350 will do for me next year. Better content begets better content.
  • Being a Godfather – I am the godfather  to a wonderful baby girl(Hi Skyler). Very important to me and a cherished honor, especially since my life was headed for calamity at the time of her birth.
  • Jury Duty – After having a period of crisis earlier in the year(A lot of flux and starting a bunch of scary experiments that turned into the wins above) I received a jury summons. It was the last thing I wanted. What I thought would be just an interesting experience to check out the courthouse for a day turned into 4 months away from work. I got to do a lot of thinking and reading during this period,and it changed my life for the better. An experience I recommend for everyone.

Losses

  • Job – For all my personal wins, my job suffered. I concluded that I didn’t want to deal with it anymore. My chance at delivering my best isn’t here, so 2016 is a year I venture into the new.
  • Submitting content – Where I was great at generating content, I was horrible at submitting it . I put out 1 guest post and ended up doing 1 writing packet. Number I won’t repeat in 2016.
  • Calendar – I didn’t give deference to my calendar. I learned how to deal with the tactics, but never invested in it emotionally.
  • Comedy – I didn’t do it nearly the amount I wanted to in 2015. There were pockets of working on it every day, and weeks where I didn’t see a stage.
  • Meditation – Like comedy, fits and spurts. The good news is, I could have said the same thing for the blog, and now its a pretty strong habit.

What will happen in 2016

The future is interesting because it isn’t set. If you would have told me that I would spend a quarter of my year in a courthouse last December I wouldn’t believe you. Life changes, and to try to plot it out in on big chunk isn’t the way to go.

Sadly, I did that in 2014, and I fear I missed something because our limited energy, and when we focus on something, we miss out on another thing.

So, its time to experiment, and go for something newer that gives me direction, while letting my mind roam. I am going for big themes and little milestones.

By doing it this way, I am going to learn a ton and make some mistakes, but the plan is to have my 2016 process get bigger. I spent 2015 looking at what was in front of me instead of the big picture planning that introduces huge reward.

Themes

Execution

My biggest failures are failures of execution. It’s also where I find the most opportunities. This year, some places I executed well (this blog) and some places I executed badly (brand expansion).  One of the things I want to focus on in 2016 is how to expand on executing not just for myself, but for the community around me.

Abstinence

Some of the greatest lessons come from cutting things away. I learned that in 2015. I want to expand on it in 2016.  What can I remove in my life, a physical or emotional object, that will let me know that everything is OK – that life goes on. I did it with my cell phone for a month and if I handled that, I know I can handle much more.

Education

I read over 100 books. This was great, but only a first step. I never plan on reading 100 books again. My plan going forward, is to pick a great choice of books that I read through last year, and study them fully. I did this on accident with Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook: How to Tell Your Story in a Noisy Social World , but now I plan on doing it on purpose with several books I read this year. I will still take in a new book and read it, but I want to put my energy in the books that have the most to share, because often you don’t get everything out of it on the first read.

Communication

Communication was always scary to me. In my past,I dealt with a ton of shoot the messenger (i.e. getting in trouble for bringing bad news) so I learned how to avoid saying things. What I thought was a strength turned out as a weakness. Vulnerability is critical here, because often the reason I don’t make the first move is fear that the other person won’t like it.

Big Ideas

Around September this year I had a frightening observation. When I looked around me, I only saw what was in front, I never looked down the road. I rarely pursued my legacy.I am not going to repeat this mistake. Now its time to take a swing at big ideas, and I will keep up time to work on just that. Clean up time is over, now its time to bat for the win.

In Conclusion

This was a good year. I ended up fixing a lot of the problems I had. It led to huge development, not just in my self, but network and community.

I think the 5 themes for 2016 only help building those three things and in a year, I will be back here, revisiting how that worked, and how it makes me work. If you have any questions, please tweet me and lets discuss your goals and plans.

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5 Books I Recommend To End 2015

I read a lot

As the video points out, I’ve read almost 100 books this year.  Like anything else that you do creatively, there are good, bad and ugly.

In the spirit of the time of year, I will spare you the bad and ugly, and present just the good. There is a lot of books that I haven’t captured here that are wonderful.  Take a look at my Goodreads account and tweet me and I’ll give you a review on the book, or follow my Instagram account, where I leave book reviews to get an idea if a book will work for you.

First, I give the honorable mentions, a quick look at 5 books that I find tremendous and are surefire hits on my reread list. Then the top 5 books that changed my perspective.

Honorable Mention Books

Art of Learning Josh Waitzkin [Recommended by Tim Ferriss] – Critical guide to learning how to master any skill. Thinking of doing something new in 2016, pick this one up first.

Decisive Dan Heath & Chip Heath [Recommended by Shane Parrish]  – Learn how to make decisions, and make them well.

Freedom From The Known Jiddu Krishnamurti [Recommended by Zo Williams] – In order to learn about something new, completely new, you have to get comfortable with the idea that you don’t know.  All of this starts with self. This is a great primer.

The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph Ryan Holiday [ Recommended by Jason Mowatt]  – While freedom from the known is a great way to pick up the big picture – This one is a fantastic primer on how to deal with the here and now. A catalyst for some experimentation I am doing (don’t worry, I will share the results of course)

Zero to One: Notes on Startups, or How to Build the Future Peter Thiel  [Recommended by James Altucher] – Concepts concepts concepts. This is a go to book for anyone looking to build something that matters. If you’ve ever asked for my opinion on your idea, chances are one of my questions comes from this book.

 

Top 5 Books- no particular order, all must reads.

Antifragile Nassim Nicholas Taleb [Recommended by Shane Parrish] – Great books change the path of your life, I think this one did for me.  Antifragile discusses the idea of antifragility or, the idea of friction improving something, as opposed to things that are fragile, where friction destroys it. This book is full of wisdom, delivered in Nassim’s trademark brash style. At first, I considered it to effect just my financial decisions, until I realized that this idea is something that all decisions should go through, eventually slowing down and stopping my idea of getting an MBA.

You Can’t Make Me Angry Paul O. [ Recommended by Maria Popova ] – When I first bought this book, I thought it looked awful. The outside is that cheap laminate that bad workplace materials use  and the design is terrible. But, I bought it after looking at Brain Pickings and Daring Greatly(the next book) did a ton for me. I am glad I did. This book, in plain English, forces you to take a look at your anger, and understand the control you cede by letting that anger run rampant. I changed how I dealt with my emotions after reading this, and become a much happier person.

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Brene Brown [Recommended by Maria Popova] As soon as I read this, I bought her entire bibliography. This book is that powerful. Brene Brown connects all the lessons such as dealing with vulnerability, how shame hurts in every situation, and beating ourselves leads no where with personal stories(where she leaves it out there) and anecdotes backed by tremendous research. By practicing what she preached in a book where she didn’t have to, she changed my life for the better. This book is the catalyst for improving my relationships everywhere in my life.

Prometheus Rising Robert Anton Wilson [Recommended by Zo Williams] – Mysticism always seemed a little woowoo to me. I just believed in science(rationalization), and as a kid, I turned my back on religion when I noticed what it did to people. So, when I got this book recommendation, I let it sit on the shelf and did what I usually do when I procrastinate – head to YouTube. After listening to Robert Anton Wilson on YouTube for a few clips, I realized the depth of his intelligence and started reading. He lays out an incredibly insightful book regarding the world of the spiritual, and more importantly, he gives you the ammunition to question, not just what you know but what he says. This book is full of experiments (some are time-consuming, I read this months ago and I still work through them) and humor. It also got me to realize that complete rationalization is a religion itself. Before picking this up, I thought all that stuff was mumbo jumbo – now I recognize that I don’t know – which is the greatest gift of all.

Becoming Richard Pryor  Scott Saul[Recommended by Reddit] – Richard Pryor is one of my favorite comedians. It often amazes me that as a kid born after his prime, I can still look back on his routines and laugh. I fancy myself a Pryorphile – I pick up everything I can on him.   So, when I got this book from a Reddit secret Santa I know I had to read it.  This book goes into great detail, covering stretches of his life that are rarely talked about (his childhood) or stuff of legend (His Berkeley time)  where most programs and books are happy to just scan over.The result is a masterful book, soul crushing and inspiring all at the same time, toeing a great line painting Pryor as a person turned an awful childhood into something the world enjoyed, but never quite shaking that self-destructive behavior around the people closest to him. Any fan of comedy should pick this up, but stretch before you do (It’s the biggest book on this list).

 

The giving season is finishing up

But don’t neglect yourself. Reading is compound knowledge that compounds. All ten are worth your time.  Take some time to expand your abilities by sitting down with a great book, and if you need any more recommendations, feel free to reach out to me on Twitter @TheHonorableAT and lets talk.

 

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So, How Do I Pick Books?

Yesterday I discussed changes to my reading strategy, and I mentioned that I would write about how I selected books to engage in.

Well, why not today?

How do I choose a book:

  • Any book I pick has recommendations by someone I respect
    • This knocks out “book browsing” by a certain degree, I don’t like buying things just to buy them – and recommendations cut down the noise factor significantly.
  • After that recommendation, I write it down.
  • If I get a second recommendation, I find the book on Amazon
    • This second recommendation takes many forms
      • If another person talks about it
      • If I see it everywhere
      • If I read about it enough
    • If the book has more than 30 reviews and 5 stars, I buy it immediately
    • If it has between 4 and 5 stars I put it in a folder called “books to consider”
      • This list is the one I go through at the end of the year. In 2015, 50 books ended up purchased here.
        • Thought: Compare EOY books with books bought in moment.
    • Less than 4 stars
      • Delete for now, but store it in the memory banks if more recommendations come up.

It is a simple guide, and guided me pretty well over the last few years.

There are exceptions – if Seth, Jason,Mark, or Sean recommend a book, I buy it immediately. They have fantastic track records and I trust them greatly.

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Overextended With Books! Too Much Of A Good Thing

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I’ve over extended.

At the beginning of the year, I made it a goal to read 100 books for the calendar year.

I have to do a quick accounting of the books I have read this year. I think I am close to 80 with two months to go.

With the end of the year coming up, there is a ton of downtime with the holidays. I’ll hit 100 books without being pressured, in between dinners and travel.

That isn’t why I am over extended.

The reason I am over extended is that with just reading the books that get through my filters (I will explain in  another post, but I do not read any and everything), I still don’t have the time to dig into the books that really gave me pause.

My filters need to get stronger for me to get the most out of great books.

I’ve discovered some great ones over the last year though.

A few:

  • Decisive
  • Go Giver
  • Antifragile
  • Louder Than Words
  • The Dip
  • War of Art
  • Freedom From The Known
  • Rising Strong
  • You Can’t Make Me Angry
  • Prometheus Rising

Even though I have read them, there is more to get out of these books.

I treat each book the same, sit down, savor, and move to the next one.

The books on that list (there are more) not only give me the completion feeling, but change how I see the world.  Other books are interesting (I stop reading ones that don’t catch on with me, so they don’t count) but I get enough out of them in one reading to move on. They change smaller things, how I sleep or tweak a habit.

I need to spend more time with the home runs, and less time with the singles. Time is the only resource we don’t get back, and while a tweak helps after reading a book, spending that time on watershed moments that change my life work better.

Going forward, I will spend more time in the books like that, instead of newer text.  Instead of going for numbers, i’ll mine the quality. I’ll use the heuristic of 65% reread and 35% new reads (time not number of books. )

As I get more engaged, some wrinkles will develop, but for now, this simplicity works.

This also means, I shouldn’t hit my goal of the year – a nice demarcation line.

Note: Don’t get me wrong, every book I finished this year left me with something. I am a better person from reading them, but certain books are on another level.

 

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