Tag: touch

I love the quick nudge

Learning how to keep in touch was paramount for me in 2015. I learned how to take a relationship and support it. I’ve met some friends that who inspire me to work.

The easiest way to support that is the quick nudge. Its simple, a text, a quick email, a short tweet. Its low risk, spares the ego, and it holds no forced response.

Best of all, it takes very little time to do. Take advantage of a slow minute and email someone who you are thinking about them.

It holds another tremendous benefit

It makes people feel better. People rarely get emails that hold nothing but well wishes. A thank you note or text brightens my day every time it happens. It also brightens up the day of anyone else I ask. I’ve never heard of anyone that hates a nice check-in.

Building a relationship, getting closer through the quick nudge opens up the opportunity to help. People feel more comfortable in confiding in people who take an interest, and it provides you the opportunity to become a better listener.

You get the chance to bring value to people who aren’t expecting it.

This is critical for leaders. But there is something that stops us from doing this when we could.

Turn your ego off

Ego gets us every time because it expects us to get the upper hand. By extending an unrequited gesture, ego starts to panic. You won’t win every time you do this, there is a chance it goes unanswered, you get nothing, and the ego calls you a loser.

That is a scary thing. Who wants to feel underwhelmed? But the key here isn’t that you get the single action back, it’s about building the muscle to do it often. If it becomes a part of your skill set, youve acquired something that most people’s egos stop them from getting, and that leaves you ahead of the game. Keep in touch.

Note: As with all things extremes get you in trouble. Don’t harass. A simple note does wonders but a stack of them becomes a nuisance.